My husband and I are going through a very rough patch right now and I am afraid it will not end well. I haven't talked to any one about it except telling a friend we were having problems. She recommended "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage." I went to a bookstore today to pick up a copy, but when I brought the book home I realized it was "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands."  I started reading the book out of boredom thinking of taking it back in the morning and exchanging it.  While reading it, I realized this was not a mistake - this was God or my guardian angel's way of waking me up and helping me realize how stupid and wrong I have been for the past 7 years of marriage. I hope I am not too late to change the selfish and ignorant way I have been and to appreciate, respect and love this wonderful guy I have been letting down all this time. In chapter two and every single story, I have been involved in: I try to make him perfect for me; or criticize everything: nag, bitch, complain about everything and anything stupid; and on top of it, expect to be treated like a queen and a goddess when I haven't been doing anything to deserve it.

He is away for training now and doesn't come back until next Friday.  I sent him a message, asking to give me some time before he gives up on me completely and I am praying very hard he gives me that time.  I wish someone had given me this book before I got married; it would have been an eye opener and I wouldn't be in this situation right now.

Ana