December 3, 2015
Letting Go Of Expectations

Part of becoming mentally healthy and taking responsibility for your action is self care, even if it means losing something you think you want. My sister Is the one person who created the biggest loss for me.

She was not the true loss it was the collateral damage. We have always had a difficult relationship.  I was the one who felt responsible to protect her, at a cost to myself. Since I never had children, I wanted to be the best Uncle I could be. I had dreams of what our relationship would be like as they got older and we could do great things together. This is what kept me from leaving the relationship.

One day, while on the phone with my sister she began screaming at me and abruptly hung up. That was the last day I was going to let her treat me badly. I held my ground and did not call to apologize. I was tired of apologizing for things I did not do. After a period of time my sister emailed me and said she and her children wanted nothing to do with me.  

I grieved deeply the loss of my expectation of my relationship with them. I grew into a better person and my life is filled with others who love me as much as I would have thought they would have. I have taken this healing into my work.

I am now a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Today I help families to create ways to avoid situations like this. On a daily basis my clients will hear me say, "Dr Laura says.." Other times I hear,  "That's what Dr Laura would say!"

Thank you personally and professionally for all you say and do.

Greg



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