August 3, 2015
Children of Divorced Parents


Dear Dr. Laura, 

I am a 45-year-old woman and am still not over my parents' divorce. Blood is always thicker than water and it always will be. 

Year after year, I have had to watch my step-mom control all dates in the family, with her own children being privy to things that I am not. I have had to endure from afar while my dad celebrated holidays and his birthdays with his new family. I begged to come celebrate his 70th birthday and instead my step-mom had his celebration during the week when it was impossible for me to attend. 

Although we were close, my mom was always mad at me when I spent time with my dad. Once, when I told her I was going to visit him, she cried for a week. Divorce is a never ending battle for the children left in its wake and it doesn't end at the courthouse. To all the children of divorce, I am sorry if your parents remarry. It is a painful existence, feeling like you don't really fit anywhere in the family dynamic of their new lives. 

I have been married for 21 years and divorce was never an option for my husband and me. We are raising three daughters who know they are important and cherished on a daily basis. 

Kelli


Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM