Dear Dr. Laura,

A little praise for Jake who's getting back on the dating scene after taking care of ill family members. (I'm in my 40's and in the same boat.)

You've got a guy here who's given up a good chunk of his life and proved himself a responsible adult, a guy who's less likely to walk out on a wife if she gets sick! That's big! It's one of the biggest concerns many young women have when it comes to marriage!

I've been in church singles groups for more years than I care to think about and unfortunately there are reasons why so many are still single and single AGAIN! The biggest of which is immaturity. Men and women in their 20's, 30's 40's and even their 50's who still behave like high schoolers.

Jake, Dr Laura's advice is right on, it's not all on your end. Find a woman who will admire you for w ho you are! And find a good church. You'll find there are good ones as well as bad ones, and then there are some great ones! (Just like many of the women you are going to meet.) Don't settle for less than you deserve, or have earned either!

As you start your search for a great church I will leave you these words from Jesus Himself, "Then the righteous will answer him, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?' The King will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'" (Matt 25:37-40)

Gus