August 11, 2015
I Make the Money, so I Controlled My Husband


Having grown resentful and bitter in my marriage, I purchased "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" willing to try anything to save the relationship. In our marriage, I am the one who works and he stays home; we have no children. I have a great career as a nurse which can support us both. Unfortunately, I had gotten into the mentality that because I make all the money, he is my slave and had to do everything when I said and how I said to do it. My husband is an amazing man who cooks dinner every night, cleans the house, does the laundry and takes care of things outside the house. I had allowed money to become a status symbol and a way to control him.  I had the mindset that even though he did everything around the house, if I wasn't working to pay all the bills, there would be no house for him to care for. I even did the all too common withholding sex because of my resentment towards him for being at home while I worked.  I just finished reading your book and I am embarrassed that I have acted like so many women in there, but I am also grateful for the wakeup call. I will now give my husband the love and respect he deserves and let him know every day how lucky I consider myself to be married to such an amazing man! 

Thank you so much Dr. Laura. I truly believe you saved a marriage that was almost on its death bed. God bless you! 

Charlie


Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM